It's come to my attention that people may not be certain of my intentions in starting this project and thus are leery of potentially setting me up. It's a legitimate concern. In a world of jerks it'd be easy to see this project as nothing more than an opportunity to be a tool. I get it. Really, I do.
So, let me start by saying that this is not an excuse to make fun or be mean to the guys that I go on these dates with. I fully intend to treat them and the date with the utmost respect. The humor will be applied only anecdotally in the way that I write out the experiences. I'm not doing this with a mean spirit or to make myself feel good by making others feel like crap. That's not the way I roll.
The guys I'm going to go out with on these dates are human beings, just like me. That means that they deserve the respect as a person that I would give any other person, regardless of how well he and I do or do not get along. I fully intend on building this project on the idea of respect: Respect for my dates, myself, and for the social institution of dating.
That doesn't mean that there won't be laughs and funny things that happen along the way. In fact, I'm hoping that it will be a mostly humorous romp. However, it will all be situational and not person based.
So, that brings me to the reason I am doing this project. I'm doing it because I want to. I want to be able to look back on my life and not just remember that I had all these ideas that could have been a lot of fun but I didn't do them. I want to actually go through with some of the ideas that I have. This is one way to do that.
I hope that helps to explain why I'm doing this. If anyone has any questions about this project or my reasons for doing it that I haven't covered you can email me at theblinddateproject@yahoo.com.
Thanks for listening! Stay tuned for more supplementals and the official start of the project.
Monday, March 28, 2011
Friday, March 25, 2011
The Blind Date Project
Premise: To engage in one blind date a week for a year starting April 1, 2011 and ending March 31, 2012.
Who I Am: I am a 26 year old graduate student living in the Midwestern US. I'll graduate in August with an MA in Communications and am hoping to teach at the college level when I get finished. I work full time and like to hang out with my friends. I perform at the periodic Renaissance festivals, play at conventions, am a comic book nerd, and enjoy reading and writing and a good movie. I've got lots of friends who I'm sure have lots of other friends. And, like most people it seems, I have a hard time meeting people to date. So, why not go old school, eschew all the dating site garbage and have people set me up? Who knows? It might actually work.
Why: Because I want to. I think it'll be entertaining.
Rules:
Safety first
1. All dates will be arranged by someone that I know with someone that they know. Dates from online dating sites will not be taken.
2. All dates will happen in public areas and I will not go back to anyone's house nor allow them to come back to mine.
3. I will drive myself to all dates and meet my date at an agreed upon location.
4. Multiple dates are not allowed. This will be 52 dates with 52 guys. After all, it's not very blind if I've been out with the guy before, right?
5. Generally speaking, all dates will be dutch. (For those of you not in the know, that means we pay our own ways.)
6. No sex. Personally, I think it should go without saying, but in today's society apparently it needs to be said. I'm not doing this to get laid and one night stands seriously don't interest me.
Alright! Those are all the rules I can think of right now. The first date will be in a week. Here goes nothing.
K
Who I Am: I am a 26 year old graduate student living in the Midwestern US. I'll graduate in August with an MA in Communications and am hoping to teach at the college level when I get finished. I work full time and like to hang out with my friends. I perform at the periodic Renaissance festivals, play at conventions, am a comic book nerd, and enjoy reading and writing and a good movie. I've got lots of friends who I'm sure have lots of other friends. And, like most people it seems, I have a hard time meeting people to date. So, why not go old school, eschew all the dating site garbage and have people set me up? Who knows? It might actually work.
Why: Because I want to. I think it'll be entertaining.
Rules:
Safety first
1. All dates will be arranged by someone that I know with someone that they know. Dates from online dating sites will not be taken.
2. All dates will happen in public areas and I will not go back to anyone's house nor allow them to come back to mine.
3. I will drive myself to all dates and meet my date at an agreed upon location.
4. Multiple dates are not allowed. This will be 52 dates with 52 guys. After all, it's not very blind if I've been out with the guy before, right?
5. Generally speaking, all dates will be dutch. (For those of you not in the know, that means we pay our own ways.)
6. No sex. Personally, I think it should go without saying, but in today's society apparently it needs to be said. I'm not doing this to get laid and one night stands seriously don't interest me.
Alright! Those are all the rules I can think of right now. The first date will be in a week. Here goes nothing.
K
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